写一篇关于爱情的英语作文

ThePositiveMeaningsofLoveWe'dliketosharesomeofthepositivemeaningslovehasforus.LovemeansthatIknowthepersonIlove.I'mawareofthemanysidesoftheotherperson—notjustthebeautifulsidebutalsothelimitations,inconsistenciesandfaults.Ihaveanawarenessoftheother'sfeelingsandthoughts,andIexperiencesomethingofthecoreofthatperson.Icanpenetratesocialmasksandrolesandseetheotherpersononadeeperlevel.LovemeansthatIcareaboutthewelfareofthepersonIlove.Totheextentthatitisgenuine,mycaringisnotpossessive,nordoesitholdtheotherpersonback.Onthecontrary,mycaringfreesbothofus.IfIcareaboutyou,I'mconcernedaboutyourgrowth,andIhopeyouwillbecomeallthatyoucanbecome.Consequently,Idon'tputupobstaclestowhatyoudothatenhancesyouasaperson,eventhoughitmayresultinmydiscomfortattimes.LovemeanshavingrespectforthedignityofthepersonIlove.IfIloveyou,Icanseeyouasaseparateperson,withyourownvaluesandthoughtsandfeelings,andIdonotinsistthatyousurrenderyouridentitytomatchanimageofwhatIexpectyoutobeforme.Icanallowandencourageyoutostandaloneandtobewhoyouare,andIavoidtreatingyouasanobjectorusingyouprimarilytosatisfymyownneeds.LovemeanshavingaresponsibilitytowardthepersonIlove.IfIloveyou,Irespondtomostofyourmajorneedsasaperson.Thisresponsibilitydoesnotincludemydoingforyouwhatyouarecapableofdoingforyourself;nordoesitmeanthatIrunyourlifeforyou.ItdoesmeanacknowledgingthatwhatIamandwhatIdoaffectsyou,sothatIamdirectlyinvolvedinyourhappinessandyoursuffering.Aloverdoeshavethecapacitytohurtorignorethelovedone,andinthissenseweseethatloveinvolvesanacceptanceofsomeresponsibilityfortheimpactmywayofbeinghasonyou.LovemeansmakingacommitmenttothepersonIlove.Thiscommitmentdoesnotmeansurrenderingourtotalselvestoeachother;nordoesitimplythattherelationshipisnecessarilypermanent.Itdoesinvolveawillingnesstostaywitheachotherintimesofpain,struggle,anddespair,aswellasintimesofcalmandenjoyment.LovemeanstrustingthepersonIlove.IfIloveyou,Itrustthatyouwillacceptmycaringandmyloveandthatyouwon'tdeliberatelyhurtme.Itrustthatyouwillfindmeattractive,andthatyouwon'tabandonme;Itrustthemutualnatureofourlove.Ifwetrusteachother,wearewillingtobeopentoeachotherandrevealourtrueselves.Lovecantolerateimperfection.InaloverelationshiptherearetimeswhenIambored,timeswhenImayfeellikegivingup,timesofrealstrain,andtimesIfeelIcan'tmoveforward.Authenticlovedoesnotimplyenduringhappiness.Icanstayduringroughtimes,however,becauseIcanrememberwhatwehadtogetherinthepast,andIcanpicturewhatwewillhavetogetherinourfutureifwecareenoughtofaceourproblemsandworkthemthrough.Weagreewiththeideathatloveisaspiritthatchangeslife.Loveisawayoflifethatiscreativeandthattransforms.However,loveisnotreservedforaperfectworld.Loveismeantforourimperfectworldwherethingsgowrong.Loveismeanttobeaspiritthatworksinpainfulsituations.Loveismeanttobringmeaningintolifewherenonsenseappearstorule.Inotherwords,lovecomesintoanimperfectworldtomakeitpossibletolive.Loveisopen.IfIloveyou,Iencourageyoutoreachoutanddevelopotherrelationships.Althoughourloveforeachotherandourcommitmenttoeachothermightprohibitcertainactionsonourparts,wearenottotallyandexclusivelymarriedtoeachother.Itisafalselovethatcementsonepersontoanotherinsuchawaythatheorsheisnotgivenroomtogrow.Loveisselfish.IcanonlyloveyouifIgenuinelylove,value,appreciate,andrespectmyself.IfIamempty,thenallIcangiveyouismyemptiness.IfIfeelthatI'mcompleteandworthwhileinmyself,thenI'mabletogivetoyououtofmyfullness.Oneofthebestwaysformetogiveyouloveisbyfullyenjoyingmyselfwithyou.Loveinvolvesseeingthepotentialwithinthepersonwelove.Inmyloveforanother,Iviewherorhimasthepersonsheorhecanbecome,whilestillacceptingwhoandwhatthepersonisnow.Bytakingpeopleastheyare,wemakethemworse,butbytreatingthemasiftheyalreadywerewhattheyoughttobe,wehelpmakethembetter.Tosumitup,matureloveisunionundertheconditionofpreservingone'sindividuality.Inlove,twobeingsbecomeoneandyetremaintwo.爱的真谛我们想把我们对爱情的一些积极看法跟大家分享.爱就意味着了解所爱的人.能够认识到这个人多个方面——不仅仅是美好的一面,还有他的局限,他的矛盾之处和他的缺点.要看到对方的情感、思想,感觉他的内心,要能够透过他在社交场合的表现和他的社会角色而看到他内心的深处.爱就意味着关心所爱之人的幸福.事实上,爱不是占有,也不是束缚.相反,两人都在爱中得到自由.关心一个人就是关心他的成长,希望他可以成为最好的他.因此我不会为他的个人发展设置障碍,即使这样有时使我难受.爱就意味着尊重所爱之人.爱一个人,就是将其卸任一个独立的人,有自己的价值观、思想和感情.我不会为自己而坚持要他放弃个性变成我所希望的他.我能允许,也鼓励他我行我素,成为他自己.我不会视他为物,或利用他主要来满足自己的需要.爱就意味着对所爱之人负责.爱一个人,就要对他作为独立个体的需求做出回应.这种负责并不包括替他做他可以自己做到的事,也不是操纵他的生活.这种负责是承认我的所作所为会影响到他,他的欢乐痛苦都与我直接相关.相爱者确有伤害或忽略所爱的人的能力.从这个意义上说,我们认为,爱就要为自己的行为对对方产生的影响承担某种责任.爱就意味着对所爱之人做出承诺.这种承诺并非意味着把自己完全交给对方,也并不是说这一关系必然是天长地久,这种承诺否认在平静愉快时,还是困苦挣扎、失意绝望时,都愿意厮守相伴.爱就意味着信赖所爱之人.爱一个人,就要相信他会接受我的关心,接受我的爱,相信他不会故意伤害我；相信他会认为平静愉快有吸引力,相信他不会抛弃我；相信爱是相互的.如果我们彼此信赖,我们就愿彼此坦诚相待,敞开心扉.爱能够容忍不完美.爱人之间也会有时感到厌倦,有时想放弃,有时感到压力,有时感到无法前进.真正的爱并不意味着永远的幸福.但是,在困难时期我能坚守,因为我仍记得我们共同度过的日子,我也能想象如果我们愿意面对我们之间的问题、渡过难关、我们将共同拥有什么样的未来.我们一致认为爱是一种能改变人生的精神.爱是一种生活方式,它具有创造和改变的力量.但是爱并不是为完善世界而存在的,爱本来就是我们这个不完美、有缺陷的世界而存在的.爱应该是一种能缓解痛苦的精神力量.爱应该给我们这无聊的生活带来意义.换言之,是爱使我们能够在这不完美的世界上生活下去.爱是包容的.爱一个人,就要鼓励他与他人建立联系.尽管对彼此的爱与承诺不允许我们有某些行为,这种结合也不是全然排他的.两个人密不可分,再无个人发展的余地,这样的爱是不真实、不明智的.爱又是自私的.只有真正自爱自重、自赏自尊,才能接受别人.如果自己空虚,那么我能给所爱之人的也只是空虚.如果认为自己是充实的、出色的,那么我就能以自己的充实为所爱之人增光,给对方以爱的最好方法之一就是与所爱之人一起充分体验自己.爱就要看到所爱之人身上的内在潜力.爱一个人,在接受今日的他的同时还要了看作明天他会成为的人.视人静止不变,则令其退步,而视其进步发展、如同他的潜力已经发挥,则助其进步.总而言之成熟的爱就是在保持个体独立条件下的双方结合.在爱情中,两个人变成了一个人同时还保持着两个独立的个体.