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　　HowtoMakeFriends

　　Let'sbehonest,therearetimeswhenyouwanttoknowhowtomakefriends.Youmaybereadingthisbecauseyouareshyorunsureofhowtoapproachapersonbutitisreallyeasy.Maybeyouarejustnotconfidentbecausetheymaynotreactthewayyoudotothem.Herearesomestepsandtipstohelpyouovercometheseobstacles.

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　　Spendmoretimearoundpeople.Don'tbemean;youdonotwanttolosefriends.Ifyouwanttomakefriends,youfirstneedtoputyourselfouttheresomehowinordertomeetpeople.Ifyou'restillinschool,sitsomewherewithotherpeople.Itdoesn'thavetobethepopulartable,oracrowdedone,butonewithatleasttwootherpeople.Thepopularkidswon'tmatterwhenyou'reolder,butatruefriendwillbethereforyouforever.Remember,friendsseldomcomeknockingonyourdoorwhileyousitathomeplayingcomputergames.Popularsaren'talwaysgoingtobemeantoyou.Theyjustneedtoknowyoualittlebetter.

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　　Joinanorganizationorclubwithpeoplewhohavecommoninterests.Youdon'tnecessarilyneedtohavealotofcommoninterestswithpeopleinordertomakefriendswiththem.Infact,someofthemostrewardingfriendshipsarebetweentwopeoplewhodon'thavemuchincommonatall,butifyoulikeaspecifictopic,trysearchingforjustalocation.It'sagreatwaytomeetnewlocalpeople!SocialnetworkingsitessuchasFacebook,TwitterandGoogle+aregreatwaytomeetnewpeopleandlearnmoreaboutthepeopleyoumeet.WhenyouarechattingjustsayareyouonFacebook?orwhatisyournameonTwitter?Achurch,Masjid(mosque)orotherhouseofworshipisagreatplacetostartsinceyouhaveatleasthaveareligiousfaithincommon.However,ifyoudoenteramosque,remembertoberespectfulinthehouseofAllah.Justremembertobesafeontheinternet,youdon'tknowwhoisactuallyontheotherendmostofthetime.

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　　Joinasportsteam.Acommonmisconceptionaboutthisisthatyouhavetobereallygoodatplayingaparticularsportinordertomakefriendswithothersontheteam,butnotallteamsaresocompetitive.Aslongasyouenjoythesportandsupportyourteammates,joiningalocalteamwithalaid-backattitudecouldbeagreatwaytomakenewfriends.Butasportsteamisn'ttheonlyway.Ifyouplayinstrumentsorsing,tryjoiningabandorchoir.

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　　Volunteer.Volunteeringisalsoagreatwayforpeopleofallagestomeetothers.Byworkingtogetheryoubuildbondswithpeople,andyoumightmeetotherswhohaveapassionforchangingthingsthewayyoudo(acommoncause).

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　　Talktopeople.Youcanjoinaclub,gotoschool,orgotochurchbutyoustillwon'tmakefriendsifyoudon'tactuallytalktopeople.Bythesametoken,youdon'thavetobeinvolvedwithanorganizationtobesocial,andanytimeyoutalktosomeone,youhaveachanceatmakingalastingfriend.Youcantalktoanybody:theclerkatthevideostore,thepersonsittingnexttoyouonthebus,orthepersoninfrontofyouinthelunchline.Don'tbetoopicky.Mostconversationswillbeadead-endofsorts,whenyoumaynevertalktothatpersonagain,oryoujustremainacquaintances—butonceinawhileyou'llactuallymakeafriend.

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　　Makeeyecontactandsmile.Ifyouhaveanunfriendlycountenance,peoplearelesslikelytobereceptivetoyourfriendship.Trynotsquinting(getsomeglasses),lookingbored,frowningorappearingblanklydeadpan,foldingyourarms(thispracticallyscreamsdon'ttalktome)orhangingoutinacorner;suchhabitsmaymakeyoulooktroubledordisinterested.

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　　Startaconversation.Therearemanywaystodothis;acommentaboutyourimmediateenvironment(Theweatherisaclassic:Atleastit'snotraininglikelastweek!),arequestforhelp(Canyouhelpmecarryafewboxes,ifyouhaveaminute?orCanyouhelpmedecidewhichoneoftheseisabettergiftformymom?)oracompliment(That'sanicecar.orIloveyourshoes.).Followupimmediatelywitharelatedquestion:Doyoulikethiswarmweather?Whatkindsofgiftsdoyounormallybuyforyourmom?Wheredidyougetshoeslikethat?

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　　Makesmalltalk.Keepthe30%talking/70%listening,ratioinmindduringsmalltalkwhenpossible.Keepinmindthatthisisonlyageneralrule,andthattheoptimalratiooflisteningtotalkingisdependentonroomtemperature,timeofday,andnumberofconversationalparticipants.

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　　Introduceyourselfattheendoftheconversation.ItcanbeassimpleassayingOh,bytheway,mynameis....Onceyouintroduceyourself,theotherpersonwilltypicallydothesame.Rememberhisorhername!Ifyoushowthatyourememberedthingsfromyourpastconversation(s)withtheperson,notonlywillyoulookintelligentbutheorshewillseethatyouwerepayingattentionandarewillingtobeatruefriend.

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　　Initiateaget-together.Youcanchatyourheartoutbutitwon'tgetyouafriendifyoudon'topenuptheopportunityforanotherconversationormeeting.Thisisespeciallyimportantifyoumeetsomeonewhoyouaren'totherwiselikelytomeetagain.Seizetheday!

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　　Pursuecommoninterests.Ifyou'vediscoveredthatthepersonyou'retalkingtohasacommoninterest,askhimorhermoreaboutitand,ifappropriate,whethertheygettogetherwithothers(inaclub,forexample)topursuethisinterest.Ifso,thisisaperfectopportunitytoaskaboutjoiningthem.Ifyouclearlyexpressinterest(when?where?cananyonecome?)they'llprobablyinviteyou.Ifyouhaveaclub,band,church,etc.thatyouthinktheymightenjoy,taketheopportunitytogivethemyournumberoremailaddressandinvitethemtojoinyou.

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　　Askthemoutforlunchorcoffee.Thatwillgiveyouabetteropportunitytotalkandgettoknoweachotheralittlebitbetter.Agoodwaytoextendyourselfistosay:Hey,well,I'vegottogo,butifyoueverwanttotalkoverlunchorcoffeeoranythinglikethat,letmegiveyoumynumber/e-mailaddress.Thisgivesthepersontheopportunitytocontactyou;theymayormaynotgiveyoutheirinformationinreturn,butthat'sfine.Maybetheydon'thavetimefornewfriends—don'ttakeitpersonally!Justofferyourcontactinformationtowhoeverseemstobepotentiallyagoodfriend,andeventuallysomebodywillgetintouch.

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　　Don'tdoanythingtopressuresomeoneintobeingfriendswithyou.Neverchideacquaintancesforfailingtoinviteyoutoaparty,forexample;don'tcallsomeonerepeatedlyorstopbyuninvited(unlessyouhaveestablishedthatstoppingbyunannouncedisOK);andrefrainfromoverstayingyourwelcomeanywhere.Ingeneral,takefriendshipslowly,anddon'ttrytoforceintimacytogrowquickly.Themovefromacquaintancetofriendcantakealongtime.It'sunderstandabletowantmoreofagoodthing,buttrytoerronthesideofless.Ifyouarenotsureaboutthepaceofyournewfriendship,checkinwithyourfriendandaskdirectly.Toomuch,toofastcanbescaryorintimidating,andnoteverybodyisabletosaySlowdown...-instead,theymayruntheotherway!

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　　Beloyaltoafriend.You'veprobablyheardoffair-weatherfriends.They'retheoneswhoarehappytobearoundyouwhenthingsaregoingwell,butarenowheretobefoundwhenyoureallyneedthem.Partofbeingafriendisbeingpreparedtomakesacrificesofyourtimeandenergyinordertohelpoutyourfriends.Ifafriendneedshelpwithanunpleasantchore,orifheorshejustneedsashouldertocryon,bethere.Ifyourfriendsmakeajoke,laughwiththem.Nevercomplainaboutafriend.

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　　Beagoodfriend.Onceyou'vestartedspendingtimewithpotentialfriends,remembertodoyourpart(e.g.initiatingsomeoftheactivities,rememberingbirthdays,askinghowtheotherpersonisfeeling)orelsethefriendshipwillbecomeunbalancedandanuneasinessordistanceislikelytoarise.

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　　Bereliable.Ifyouandyourfriendagreetomeetsomewhere,don'tbelate,anddonotstandthemup.Ifyou'renotgoingtomakeitontimeormakeitatall,callthemassoonasyourealizeit.Apologizeandasktoreschedule.Don'tmakethemwaitforyouunexpectedly;it'srude,anditiscertainlynotagoodwaytolaunchapotentialfriendship.Whenyousayyou'lldosomething,doit.Besomeonethatpeopleknowthattheycancounton.

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　　Beagoodlistener.Manypeoplethinkthatinordertobeseenasfriendmaterialtheyhavetoappearveryinteresting.Farmoreimportantthanthis,however,istheabilitytoshowthatyou'reinterestedinothers.Listencarefullytowhatpeoplesay,rememberimportantdetailsaboutthem(theirnames,theirlikesanddislikes),askquestionsabouttheirinterests,andjusttakethetimetolearnmoreaboutthem.Youdon'twanttobetheguyorgirlthatalwayshasabetterstorythananyoneelseorthatchangesthesubjectabruptlyinsteadofcontinuingtheflowofconversation.Thesepeopleappeartoowrappedupinthemselvestobegood—one-ups-man-shipisaputdown.

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　　Betrustworthy.Oneofthebestthingsabouthavingafriendisthatyouhavesomeonetowhomyoucantalkaboutanything,evensecretsthatyouhidefromtherestoftheworld.Thekeytobeingagoodconfidanteistheabilitytokeepsecrets,soit'snosecretthatyoushouldn'ttellotherpeoplethingsthatweretoldtoyouinconfidence.Keepinmindthatrecentstudiesshowthatpeoplerarelykeepsecrets.Beforepeopleevenfeelcomfortableopeninguptoyou,however,youneedtobuildtrust.