关于爱情观的英语作文

介我拿手～～～Whentheconversationcomestolove,italwaysraisethebiggestemotion,reactionandpassion.But,Whatislove?Loveisthatfeelingyougetwhenyoumeettherightperson.Thisishowmanypeopleapproacharelationship.Consciouslyorunconsciously,theybelieveloveisasensation(basedonphysicalandemotionalattraction)thatmagically,spontaneouslygenerateswhenMr.orMs.Rightappears.Andjustaseasily,itcanspontaneouslydegeneratewhenthemagicjustisn'tthereanymore.Youfallinlove,andyoucanfalloutofit.Thekeywordispassivity.ErichFromm,inhisfamoustreatiseTheArtofLoving,notedthesadconsequenceofthismisconception:Thereishardlyanyactivity,anyenterprise,whichisstartedwithsuchtremendoushopesandexpectations,andyet,whichfailssoregularly,aslove.(Thatwasbackin1956--chancesarehe'dbeevenmorepessimistictoday.)Sowhatisreal,lastinglove?Loveistheattachmentthatresultsfromdeeplyappreciatinganother'sgoodness.LOVEISACHOICEIflovecomesfromappreciatinggoodness,itneedn'tjusthappen--youcanmakeithappen.Loveisactive.Youcancreateit.Justfocusonthegoodinanotherperson(andeveryonehassome).Ifyoucandothiseasily,you'llloveeasily.ACTIONSAFFECTFEELINGSNowthatyou'refeelingsowarmlytowardtheentirehumanrace,howcanyoudeepenyourloveforsomeone?ThewayGodcreatedus,actionsaffectourfeelingsmost.Forexample,ifyouwanttobecomemorecompassionate,thinkingcompassionatethoughtsmaybeastart,butgivingtzedaka(charity)willgetyouthere.Likewise,thebestwaytofeellovingistobeloving--andthatmeansgiving.Whiletherearemanydifferentwaystodefineloveandtherearemanydifferentwaystolovesomeone(orevenyourself),hereisageneralguidetoloving.1.Sayit.WhenyousaythewordsILoveYou,theyshouldcarrywiththemthedesiretoshowsomeonethatyoulovethem,notwhatyousimplywanttofeel.Whenyousayit,makesureyoureallymeanitandarewillingtodoanythingforthatspecialperson.2.Empathize.Putyourselfinsomeoneelse'sshoes.Ratherthanimposeyourownexpectationsorattempttocontrolthem,tounderstandhowtheyfeel,wheretheycomefrom,andwhotheyare.Realizehowtheycouldalsoloveyoubackjustaswell.3.Loveunconditionally.Ifyoucannotloveanotherpersonwithoutattachingstipulations,thenitisnotloveatall,butdeep-seatedopportunism(onewhomakesthemostofanadvantage,oftenunmindfulofothers).Ifyourinterestisnotintheotherpersonassuch,butratherinhowthatpersoncanenhanceyourexperienceoflife,thenitisnotunconditional.Ifyouhavenointentionofimprovingthatperson’slife,orallowingthatpersontobethemselvesandacceptingthemastheyare,andnotwhoyouwantthemtobe,thenyouarenotstrivingtolovethemunconditionally.4.Expectnothinginreturn.Thatdoesn'tmeanyoushouldallowsomeonetomistreatorundervalueyou.Itmeansthatgivinglovedoesnotguaranteereceivinglove.Trylovingjustforthesakeoflove.Realizethatsomeonemayhaveadifferentwayofshowinghisorherloveforyou;donotexpecttobelovedbackinexactlythesameway.5.Realizeitcanbelost.Ifyourealizethatyoucanlosetheoneyoulove,thenyouhaveagreaterappreciationofwhatyouhave.Thinkhowluckyyouaretohavesomeonetolove.Don'tmakeanidolofthepersonyoulove.Thiswillplacethemunderunduepressureandwilllikelyresultinyoulosingthem.6.Neverstoploving.Evenifyouhavebeenhurtbeforeyoushouldnotstopgivinglove.Youmustloveyourselfbeforeyoucanloveanother.Butbeforeyoucanloveyourself,youmustknowandunderstandyourselfprofoundly.Thisdeepunderstandingofyourselfwillautomaticallyleadyoutoloveyourself(sinceyouwillbecomeawareofyourdivineessence)andyouwillalsoloveeveryotherpersonatthatsamemoment(becauseyouwillrecognizethatsamedivineessenceineveryotherperson).TheaboveiswhatIthinkaboutLOVE.